FAQs

The Frequently Asked Questions feature of relationshipbaggage.com responds to questions that relate directly to Moving On and will expand on a regular basis. Make sure you check in and read the latest.

Q: Can you use Moving On to work on old relationships when you're already with someone new?

A: Absolutely, you not only can work on your prior relationships, you really MUST work on them or you're liable to sabotage the new one based on what has been left unfinished by the ending of the old ones. [Caution – you cannot work on the old ones with your current partner – it needs to be a private action. You don't share it with your new mate].

Question from a visitor to Relationshipbaggage.com:

Q: We were married for more than 20 years. It was a great marriage until the last few years when we started to drift apart. Then I had an affair. The marriage ended. In addition to losing her, I’ve lost the closeness with my kids. I want her back, but she doesn’t appear interested. I think she might want me back but she’s afraid to get hurt again. What do I do? Do I have to move on or should I pursue a reconciliation?

A: Before you approach your ex wife about getting back together, you MUST take the actions outlined in Moving On, or you will sabotage any future relationship, whether with your ex or someone new. The actions in MOVING ON will help you address those years in which you “drifted apart,” as well your infidelity, and the rest of the emotional baggage you’re dragging with you. If there’s a realistic possibility of reconciling the relationship, you will be ready to be different than you were before.